When I am asked what the best thing about my martial arts life is – I always answer the same way: ‘the friendships I have made’.
I have managed, over the years, to form some great friendships; but I have to admit, I have become more selective about who I ‘hang out’ with as I have become older.
On the other hand it also important to have someone to congratulate you when
you do succeed. It keeps you motivated to reach your goals. Praise is a good tool to keep anyone motivated. Through teaching I have noticed this. Praising a student and then correcting does a lot more good than just correcting. Even just little things like “good kick!” can go a long way.
Sure, I’ll be nice and polite enough to people who have lots of negative stuff going on despite the fact that they seem keen to share it with me – but I don’t develop close friendships with those types of people. Seriously – LIFE IS JUST TOO SHORT – I’ve become kind of fussy I guess.
It is amazing to me (perhaps I am just beginning to take more notice) how many people there are that actually resent success and resent other people moving forward – perhaps it makes them realize that they themselves are not achieving the things they set out to achieve.
One way to maintain the ‘shoulder to shoulder’ position in a race, is to hold the other guy back. It’s not so much that I am repelled by such people – it’s this – I AM SIMPLY MORE ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE WHO ARE POSITIVE, HAPPY AND GENUINELY PLEASED WHEN OTHERS DO WELL – and so I have naturally and gradually surrounded myself with those sorts of friends.
When my friends do well, achieve goals, buy themselves a new car, house, or whatever – I can honestly say that I am genuinely overjoyed for them. I applaud their success – not just outwardly, but within myself also.
None of us can achieve anything without the help and assistance of others. Even a lone assault on the South Pole needs a huge support team.
What does it cost, to genuinely wish others well? Virtually nothing – and yet in doing so, we begin to re-wire our own thinking, our own view of the world.
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